In the world of dating and relationships, I’ve been told that I can be difficult to get to know. Yet I am often said to be easy to get along with. One moment, she may say that I’m secretive and the very next complain on my lack of subtlety in our affairs. I’ve been called a dead set liar and a sincere, honest individual in the very same breath!
The truth of the matter is I am all of those things to a degree, and what I’ve discovered about myself and most of the people who share my position in dating is that we can be difficult to love.
There, I said it.
You see, we’re not monsters or undatable men and women who are divas or the depressed. We are neither sad nor lonely when we are alone, and in most cases we are adequate in our own presence. We’ve just been single for soooo long that we simply lack certain empathies!
The trouble for someone interested in such a person is that they are presented the rather hefty task of unfairly having to prove to us that they are worth more than our time spent alone.
We’ve become so self-reliant and independent that now our suitor has to do or be something extraordinary to not only capture but keep our attention.
It’s not fair that a person should have to put on some grand spectacle to be with someone. Neither is it fair that we, the too-long-alone crew should remain alone when we deserve to share our lives with awesome people as well.
The solution is a clear one if you look at it purely from the standpoint of two individuals who want to be with one another:
The EXACT same things it would take for any relationship to be successful.
A sense of self and awareness and a balance between what new and exciting things that special someone may offer and what you’re willing to receive.
Who knows? Perhaps at the end of it all, both parties will discover that you were both well worth each others time all along.